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Wednesday, September 26, 2007

The Greatest Gift

This is me with my daughter Cheyenne.
The greatest gift I ever gave her was a lesson in how to do a proper breast self examination. It was a time of bonding for us both as we removed our bras and started our exploration.

I had thought at first that it might feel awkward. Like talking about sex for the first time. But I must say, I have an amazing daughter who was very reassuring and comforted me through the ordeal. I was a nervous wreck. ha!

We went through the process of nipple squeezing and feeling under our arms for lumps, then we did an exam on one another. I felt it extremely important that she be able to recognize the changes that occur with age. "This is how yours feel, this is how mine feel--they are both very different, but still normal". I didn't want this to be a traumatic experience (for either of us), I didn't want to make her worry unduly, but I did want to express the importance of self exams and finding lumps early on.

I must admit that she handled the whole thing with a level of maturity that I can only aspire to. She patted my head after we were done and I sent her to the shower to do the rest of her exam. My mother had told me when I was a teen that showers are the best place to do an exam. You take them every day and the soap makes your fingers nice and slippery so it's easier to feel for lumps. I think that must be so. Every woman I have ever known who had breast cancer found their lumps whilst showering.

I have to admit that on a scale of 1-10 for weird mother/daughter moments this would rank about a 15. But my daughter is my light and the love of my life, my crowning glory and the reason I look forward to getting out of bed every morning. My best friend. This is the greatest gift I've ever given her, but my motivation was purely selfish-- I want her with me, always.

Here is a 'must read' on BSE.
Breast Self Exam
And a pictorial/tutorial showing the 5 Steps for a proper breast exam.

    These templates are dedicated to my friend Evening.
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    She is beautiful.

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      At September 28, 2007 at 3:19 AM , Blogger Mermaid Girl said...

      Thank you :)

      And the photo of the two of you is beautiful.

      At October 13, 2007 at 4:26 PM , Blogger Michael Manning said...

      Before I lost my Dad, he and I had to yell at my Mom to get an exam. She comes from a generation that is very uptight about discussing their bodies.But she finally went in for a total exam. If I didn't have Dad around at that moment to back me up, I wouldn not have made any progress with her! Thanks for reminding me, Tricia!

      At September 15, 2009 at 1:38 PM , Blogger Sexy PTA Mom said...

      Thank you for this great reminder! My 12 year old dd just had to get a breast ultrasound, and has my lumpy breasts (I've had 9 benign tumors removed), so this is something I need to do yesterday!


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